Our Fathers

father and son

“Our Father who art in heaven, hollowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day, our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory for ever. Amen.” Matt 6:9-13

Becoming a parent is one of the most important roles that can be accomplished in a lifetime. There is no instructional manual or training involved. The title of a father is defined as: (1) a man who has a child (2) a man fulfilling the role of a father; as by adoption (3) any male ancestor; forefather (4) an originator or founder of something (5) a priest or (6) stepfather.

Even though Father’s Day has passed, it is important to recognize the significance of the role the father plays in the family. Unfortunately, in today’s society not much emphasis is focused on Father’s Day compared to Mother’s Day. It possibly could be because some fathers are non-existent in the family unit. With so many males lacking responsibility and strong character as well as other males who go unacknowledged for being a strong role model for their sons and daughters, it’s imperative to the survival of the family to identify how important the position is to the household.

“And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moves upon the earth.” Gen 1:28

A father is not just a man who plants seeds in a woman’s womb and lives by his own terms. A father leads his children in their journey in life. He protects and provides for his children. He disciplines a child when they are in trouble or supports them when they are facing challenges. He listens to their needs and blesses them with every good thing. He shares his time and values building strong relationships. He is the head of household, not only financially but also mentally, emotionally and physically. He makes wise decisions and choices not with manipulation, dominance or control, but with Godly authority. He loves at all times and worries at all times while still trusting and knowing that God has everything in control. A father is not perfect. He makes mistakes and learns along the way. He also forgives himself for past mistakes as well as forgives his children for the mistakes they made. A father is a reflection of God’s love. He is an extension of God’s grace and mercy and the workmanship of strength, courage and honor.

We must constantly pray for the men in this country who battles with continuous struggles and carries heavy responsibilities in their personal and professional lives. It takes two responsible adults to join in union to have a child and care for a child. The child did not ask to be born, but often suffers due to the selfishness or lack of responsibility of adults.

Unfortunately, with so many broken homes, a child is torn between parents in a nasty custody battle or bounced from step parents on weekend stays which may provide an unstable environment. Society is at a critical point and needs to change its ways. The broken home is like a cancer which eats away at the nucleus of the family which eventual escalates and creates a fragmented social structure.

We must look to God (Our Father) to teach us all things. It takes the true character of God to work through us, heal us, change us and deliver us.

Five Stages to Building Solid Relationships

woman and man sitting on brown wooden bench

Our lives are based on relationships. We desire to develop and build satisfying relationships. We strive so hard to find someone who truly understands and relates to us. When we do find that special connection, we are considered very rare and special.

Social media has made communicating even more interactive to share and learn about others in detail. However, we should not forget how important it is to connect with one another in a social setting or individually.

There are five basic stages of building a relationship:

  1. Casual Conversation; also known as small talk; discussing things like the weather, sports, work, etc.
  2. Developing Trust; Sharing feelings, ideas, thoughts and opinions
  3. Deeper Trust; Sharing deeper issues such as dreams, mistakes, pain and frustrations
  4. Intimacy; sharing another’s quiet space and enjoying each other’s company without conversation.
  5. Union; sharing a bond of emotions, feelings, actions and communication as one.

There are many layers to a person’s personality and history. It is a process to learn someone and each stage should develop naturally and not be rushed.

When you develop a relationship in your personal, social and business settings, it will allow you to find the right mate, friend or business partner. It’s fine to have high standards and not settle for less than you deserve. Respect, honesty, trust and communication should be the basis of any relationship. It doesn’t just work one-sided. The key is finding someone who shares the same values and belief system that you do. “Do not be unequally yoked with non-believers. 2 Corinthians 6:14

Heartaches and several headaches can be avoided if only we apply the simple standards that God desires us to live. Prosperity, peace of mind, healing, joy and fulfillment are just some of the benefits that God has promised us.

We should also apply the same five stages in developing our relationship with Christ before we even try to develop relationships with others. Our main goal should be striving for a union with Christ. Through our relationship with Christ, we understand how to treat others and walk as an example for others to follow. Developing a union provides a secure foundation to build a strong, solid healthy relationship.

“I am the vine, you are the branches. He that abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing. If anyone does not abide in e, he is cast out as a branch and is withered; and they gather them and throw them into the fire, and they are burned. If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you. B this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit so you will be my disciples. As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love. If you keep my commandments and abide in His love. These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full. This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.” John 15: 5-12

References:  Elijahlist.com

In the Eye of the Storm

Be strong and of good courage: be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed for the Lord thy God is with thee wherever thou goes.” Joshua 1:9

 My heartfelt prayers goes out to all those who was affected by the tornadoes in Oklahoma.

There are many storms in life that interrupts our plans, our dreams, our goals, our way of life. Without warning, we find ourselves in a situation or circumstance that is completely overwhelming. We may lose a job, a home or a loved one. Dealing with lose is never easy. We do not expect it nor do we deserve it. Life just dishes us unwarranted chaos and heartache. “If when evil comes upon us, to the sword, judgment or pestilence, or famine, we stand before this house and in thy presence, for thy name is in this house; and cry unto thee in our affliction, then thou will hear and help.” II Chronicles 20:9

When Jesus fell asleep on a boat in the middle of a horrific storm. The disciples panicked and awoke Him in fear that they would drown. Jesus calmly wiped the crust out of His eyes and said, “O ye of little faith.” Then he He rebuked the raging wind and He said, “Peace, be still.” And, the storm ceased. Luke 8:23-25

We may find ourselves in a similar storm in life. When the storms continue to rage and you don’t know what to do or which way to turn, remember the words of Jesus. It is possible to have peace in the midst of your storm. When you call on His name, the presence of God is always present. He always makes Himself known in the center of disaster. That’s when He can do His greatest work within us. “For God, who commanded the light to shine out of darkness, hath shined in our hearts to give light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.” II Corth 4:6-10

We may not understand why terrible things happen to us, but there is always a greater purpose. Love never fails and God always prevails rising above every storm. Be encouraged and take heart. “It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassion fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. The Lord is my portion, says my soul; therefore will I hope in Him. The Lord is good unto them that wait for Him, to the soul that seeks Him.” Lamentations 3:18-25

“And the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost whom the Father will send us in my name, he shall teach you all things and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. Peace, I leave with you, my peace I give unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither be afraid. John 14:26-27